MANNERS MATTER

October 06, 2016 / Stereotypes

MANNERS MATTER

I am not an old school person. I believe that manners and dress codes are to be taken more loosely than in the past, but since I am in London I have become a convertite. If there isn’t a dress code, people look rather misplaced and the German word "Fremdschämen" comes to my mind quite frequently.

Not so long ago, I was invited at a lunch where all the guests arrived on time.  However, one person did run 40 minutes late. On their arrival, they spotted their host, continued (visibly!) talking on the phone, and then took a seat at the table whispering ‘Hi’ without apologizing or shaking hands. You could just feel the embarrassment. Of the host. And everybody else.

There are people who ignore the rules because they believe they are above them. A Russian fellow once explained to me: “If you have to obey rules and stick to manners in my country, you’re simply not rich enough." Then there are the ones who just don’t know them and think it’s pretty normal to act the way they do (though watching a very well dressed young woman in a fancy restaurant using knife and fork like a conductor in a classic concert is always amusing). You’ll have to watch out for the third group: standing out by being perfectly fine.

Therefore follow three simple rules: dress according to the occasion, it is better to be over than underdressed, and manners matter.

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16.04.2017.

Hans-Ulrich Heisler

Nicely said, and fully agree. Manners matter. Love the one from your Russian friends. To me a bit stereotype. Personally I have experienced any kind of manners in that big group of Russians I had the pleasure to meet so far. The educated ones are outstandingly nice to deal with... Like in every nation. - Strongly recommend to stop Fremdschämen on the instant. Living in Mallorca for 15 years now, we know from experience that , a. it does not help you in any way, and b. people can separate you from the others.- and if not , WTFistheirproblem..

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16.04.2017.

Jan K.

Right!

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